BGR Introduction
You commonly heard the broken hearted after a break-up saying:
“I’m sadder than he is. Does he even regret what he did?”
“I’m disappointed with him! Does he know what he is doing?”
“He said break-up without hesitation, how could he?”
“I hate it when I suggested breaking-up and how could she agrees to it straight away”
Now the truths about these sentences are, the person saying them would assume the one they broke up with isn’t as disappointed as them. But the truth is how would they know? Now this is very important point of mine:
“Regardless who is in the wrong; everyone is a victim of any failed relationship”
If you had noticed carefully at all the failed relationships (which can be scaled down to basic 4 scenarios):
- The ones who feel their Significant Others (SO) are at fault: They will feel that time and effort had wasted to make the relationship work. (These people will feel Anger, Despair, Disappointment)
- The ones who feel that they at fault: They will feel that they had let their love ones or those that they love down. (These people will feel Guilt, Regret)
- The ones who are at fault and completely do not know: Especially those newly into a relationship but could not keep up with it. Is an unfortunate scenario as they will either go to #2 or #4 (These people are Immature, Naïve)
- The ones who are at fault and don’t feel a thing: Especially those who toy with others’ feelings and feel nothing. Feel sad for them for they are not worthy for respect and forgiveness until they realized it. (These people are Sadist, Heartless)
*If both the couple feels they are at fault, link #1 and #2.
*If both the couple feels no one is at fault, then is usually a mutual break-up.
On top of the time and effort invested, a failed relationship can bring about negative feelings which can remain in them for a long period of time. Relationship between couples can often leaves deep impact into their lives regardless whether is positive or negative. If the feelings are sweet memories then is alright. But if the feelings are sour like those I had listed, it can easily turn into an emotional scar which will take time to heal or forgive.
It is saddening to see people living their lives with emotional scars left behind by their failed relationships. I understand and had experienced myself that an emotional scar isn’t something easy to cope especially if you haven’t recovered from it. Is like someplace, something, some thoughts can just hit you hard out of the blue and bring your emotions down. Is like you can just break down during a supposing happy occasion which isn’t something you want but you can’t control.
Even if you are the one that had caused the emotional scar to others, you cannot outrun the guilt if you matured enough to realize how much hurt you had brought to others. That makes me label guys who toy around with ladies’ feeling as ‘bastards, heartless, sadist’ if they are never guilty of what they have done.
I hope that what I had blog can help the ladies see from my point of view what kind of guy is worth their time and for the guys how to work hard for the lady you seriously want to be with.
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