Now let’s look at the impact if unplanned pregnancy occurred, there is only 3 eventual choices:

1. Keep the Child and bring him/her up
2. Adoption for others
3. Abortion

To me, all 3 choices aren’t easy and the choices become harder and more narrowed if the affected couples know mentally and financially they definitely cannot cope. Not forgetting that the 3^rd choice although being the easiest is actually the most painful option for the women in the long run. To be fair, if is a guy who is reading this blog, try to picture yourself into the woman’s shoes too understand the stress as well. Let’s start of generically regardless of the choices, what impact will there be if the couple is not ready for the pregnancy:

1. The Lady realized she missed her period by few days, followed by weeks which she will start to get more and more worried. And then a month and she starts to think of the worst. How would her daily mood be like?
2. Following of course by whichever means she realized she is pregnant, very first thing of course how to inform her boyfriend especially when she isn’t sure if he could take the pressurizing shock (Especially if he is also still dependent on his own parents)
3. The doubts clouding their minds whether their parents would accept them and help them out or tell them to solve the problem themselves still a question.
4. After looking through all possible options, the couple would be stress. Because all option requires financial. If they want to keep the child and realized and that their parents refuse to help them out, the guy will have to start working. Is he ready to give up education and start working? Worst still if the guy is still in the army as an NSF earning <$400 a month. Not forgetting that pre-natal check up or even Abortion cost money as well.
5. If she is already a few months into it, she can no longer hide her tummy from her parents or care-giver she lives with. How is she going to explain to them?
6. If she is still schooling, her physical appearance would eventually give her away. How would her school and her friends look at her?

6 stress factor the couple can potentially face even before a decision is made. I remembered during my poly days, there was one friend of mine who was impregnated by her fiancé. But is already fiancé, but because is still schooling, some of the lecture mates just couldn’t stop gossiping behind her back. Fortunately enough she was in Nursing School and most of us understood her situation. But this clearly can tells you that that even Nurses to be, at age >17, some of them won’t stop gossiping on the poor girl. What more can you expect from non nurses in JC, Ploy or worst; Secondary school.

Lets be frank, no sound person would likes to be in the center of the wrong attention. This is the daily pressure the poor girl must face alone if she chose to keep the child for her own or to be eventually adopted by others. Not forgetting if she chose to keep the child for herself to bring up, eventually she will have to leave school if there is no care giver. This in fact adds further pain that she has to delay or give up her education totally for this new ‘unplanned for commitment’. For the guy, if the families can’t support, he will also have to stop schooling and start working. Also not forgetting, can the guy bring back enough income? Or in the first place, will the guy commit to the clause? Will he leave her eventually? Couples may work out the plans to their choice, but will they eventually stick to it when the guy can easily say ‘sayonara’ this is not my problem.

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