Pre-Marital Sex

Is it worthwhile to give “it” to your partner?

If you had noticed in my earlier comment of healthy relationship, I didn’t put “making love” inside the list; instead I used the word “affections”.

Making love (or Sex) can be act of love, by having affectionate feelings for one another OR

It can also be an act of lust if is just the moment of pleasure the person wants.

The line is thin and hard to define by just words itself. And let’s face it; most of the time is the men who will approach the ladies for it although it can be the other way round sometimes.

It is true that making love actually increase bonding due to the hormonal activities happening in the nervous system (Brain) when it’s done out of affection.

But Dear ladies, instead of looking/deciding whether to give it to your boyfriend out of just affection, why not look into the implications involved in it. You might say I am out to scare you but, what I am showing you are facts. Ask yourself these important 2 questions:

1. Can your SO be trusted? When he say
1. “I am virgin”
2. “I do not have STDs”
3. “I promise to be faithful to you”
2. If pregnancy occurs, can you or both of you handle it? Do you believe it when he say
1. “I’ll stay with you if it happens”
2. “I’ll quit school and start working”
3. “I can support you” (I have nothing to say if he is rich)

I’m not in position to say whether you should give “it” to your SO, but rather let you ask yourself:

1. Whether how much do you know the past of your SO?
2. What does he do regularly when you don’t get to see him?
3. Friends he often mixed out with?
4. Insulted or purposely embarrass you in front of others?
5. MOST IMPORTANTLY, how he treats you regularly? Has he:
1. Lied to you?
2. Abused you?
3. Taken advantage of you?
4. Neglect you when he feels like it?
6. Has he cared for you physically? (E.g. Does he make sure you got home safely, massage you when you feel aches, and does he put plaster for you when you hurt yourself)
7. Has he cared for you mentally? (E.g. Apologies sincerely when he is in the wrong, forgives you when you did simple mistakes, tries to give you motivation for your exams/tests/important-presentations, hugs you when you need one)

Mark my words; I strongly feel how a guy treats his girlfriend and vice versa, should determine whether he/she worthy of love. Looking from a neutral perspective, if a guy always lie to his girlfriend or treats her badly, then he is not worthy of her time. Similarly if the girl always neglects her boyfriend, she is not worthy of his time neither.

Adding strongly to that believe, if a lady isn’t being treated well by her boyfriend, should not even marry him. If he isn’t the one you want to marry, he isn’t worth giving your affections to. Is a very bad situation if ladies give ‘it’ to their Significant Others who has treated them badly and worst of all, contacted STDs from him.

STD is a REAL thing. Read on to know little more about it. There are many real stories about it with girls catching HIV at age 16 and below from their older “red light district visiting and casual sex” boyfriend.

Those cases are usually covered up to protected identity. But these are really happening out there!

If Relationship is about trust, take your time to judge whether you could trust your Significant Others first. If not, wait till he is worthy of you marrying before giving it. I rather girls go lonely then to give it to the wrong men and pay the mistake for the rest of their lives.

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